You know what they say: fear is a liar.
I say they’re right. When I took my blog full time, I had graduated from UT, accepted my first real job, and was financially on my own — and barely making a dime off the little old The Darling Detail. So, this was just the perfect little scenario for fear to enter the picture, wasn’t it? So … enter, fear. Fear told me that quitting my 9-5 *dream* job at age 22 was an absolutely crazy idea that would only lead to failure, public humiliation, a waste of time and hard work, and self-annihilation. And it would simply just shove me right back to where I started (except jobless). Sound familiar? Felt this way before? I betchayouhave. If you’re reading this now – I can assure you that this post, on this blog, on this day is proof that fear is a liar. Because quitting my job and pursuing my dreams led to none of those negative things – and led instead to a million more unimaginable and beautiful things. Yes, along the way, there were a whole lotta bumps in the road — but that’s just part of the journey; those bumps were put there to grow me, change me, and bump me out of that little box called my comfort zone.
I can parallel my fearful quitting-my-job situation to a plethora of situations (and each and every one I can personally relate to): breaking off a relationship that is not meant to be, setting boundaries with toxic friends who only bring in the negative, starting a business, pursuing your dreams, telling someone special how you actually feel, opening your heart, going after that dream job, working for that promotion, trying out for that team, the list goes on forever … and ever.
Sadly, we often live in a prison cell of “what ifs” which often build the foundation of worry. The worry of what others may think, the “what if” of failure, the fear of not being good enough, on and on and on. And unfortunately, it’s incredibly hard to step out of the cell — once you’re in it.
In each and every one of the situations I’ve listed above, I have found that with God by your side, there is no room for fear (1 John 4:18). Yes, I have faced rejection, and the battle of the what-if’s, and plenty of “no’s” and a whole lot of closed doors – but each time, I found myself changing into a new and better person. Realizing in hindsight that – the worst “they” can say is “no,” and with God by your side — He will use all of those worst-case scenarios for good (Romans 8:28) including every single one of those no’s.
Today I encourage you to walk against fear – and remember that whatever fear is holding you back from … is absolutely worth the fight. Leaps of faith are the antithesis of fear. It’s exactly what fear wants you not to do (doesn’t that just make you want to do them… now?!). I like this quote by Rachel Huber: “Fear is the brain’s way of saying that there is something important for you to overcome.”
What is it that your heart/spirit/gut feeling is telling you to overcome? Think deeply, darling. XOXO